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dell1 · 08-06-2008, 12:28 AM

How often does it happen when they say they are older than they are.
Anyways i have gotten to know her a little better the last couple of weeks. We hung out one night at a bar. She is single know she dumped her boyfriend becuase he wasnt mature enough. Back to the story so over the last two weeks she has asked me hang out with her a couple of times. Like i said i did last week with her and her friends. It was a good time.
I work with her and we cant date each other. Our bosses would flip out. We probably shouldnt be going out to bars together but she is a cool girl and we have become friends. I dont even think she likes me like that she has said on numersous occasions she would never date someone from work yet she does txt me alot to hangout with her?

lufckid · 08-06-2008, 12:45 AM

Just because she say's she would never date someone from work don't mean she would never date someone from work, i think she's trying to tell you something by saying this.

mariasue · 08-06-2008, 12:51 AM

I'm not good with advise, but I can tell you to follow your heart.If you have feelings for her, and are unsure of her feelings, then have patience, if you want a relationship with her.I just may be worth the wait, and since she's doing all that texting, she has more feelings than she is willing to admit I bet. Don't let the work thing ,stand in the way of what could be a life changing experience for you. Maybe she will come around to your way of thinking, but if not it's probably not meant to be. Good luck !

dell1 · 08-06-2008, 05:41 PM

Im really not tying to take everything a blow it up but today we were walking and she stops and goes you smell amazing. I said thaks then she got called away to do something else. I know she is a very out going girl thats for sure but about 2 weeks ago she asked me if i was dating someone. It just seems like she throws little hints out thier but at the same time she is supposedly she is/has been talking to another guy but she still is pretty freindly with me.

Mutha · 08-06-2008, 10:12 PM

Ask her straight out with a smile, "if we didn't work together, would you date me?" If she says no, drop it. Just smile, never hurts to ask.

If she says yes, you can always ask, "k would you consider dating me secretly as far as the job is concerned?" This answer will tell you where you can head from here lol.

At any rate you can remain friends and coworkers, right?

GrammyBear · 08-07-2008, 05:16 AM

what she ^ said

08-07-2008, 04:09 PM

to start with dont worry about your bosses. what is to them what you do when your not in work, i know what i would tell my boss if they tried to interfere in my personal life. it does seem a bit strange for her to be texting you so much if she just wanted to be your mate.from my personal experience i have been out with quite a few women who said one thing and did or mean't the opposite. if you like this girl that much just ask her out on a date you never know it could be the best thing you could do.

Tika · 08-07-2008, 04:16 PM

Did you ever think that maybe you do smell great? From what you say, I would believe that She may be interested in you. The big question is, are interested in her? If so, I would say it would appropriate to ask. One of two things will happen. Either She is, or isn't. Either way, you know and do not have to sit and wonder any longer. That's what I would do. The rest will fall into place. You may want to consider the fact that I've been divorced three times and sit alone all day wishing for someone to tell me that I smell great.

dell1 · 08-07-2008, 04:21 PM

Its actually against company policy for two managers to date each other inside the store. If we were and thats a big if one of us would have to be transfered to another store. I know it happens in other stores its just our store sort of looks down on that.
Like i said something is up the comment she made to me yesteday which isnt real far off for someone to say to another person about them smelling good but she has made other comments before like saturday i worked with her in the morning. I had to be back at work the next day at 5 am and she had to be thier at 7 am. She txt me at 11:30pm that night asking me i want to go to this bar. I didnt go i had to be up for work 4 hours and she knew that and she knows i live an hour away from her. She asked me if i was seeing anybody a couple of weeks ago.
My only restraint besides the fact that we work together is she is a outgong person from what i can tell and she told me she was sorta of talking to another guy that she really liked but she still asking me this stuff.

GrammyBear · 08-07-2008, 07:16 PM

Couldn't be she's out to get you caught and transferred or get herself transferred to further her career or whatever? Sorry, I do normally hope for the best but ya never know bout folks sometimes.

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08-07-2008, 04:09 PM	#7 (permalink)

welshy Guest Posts: n/a	to start with dont worry about your bosses. what is to them what you do when your not in work, i know what i would tell my boss if they tried to interfere in my personal life. it does seem a bit strange for her to be texting you so much if she just wanted to be your mate.from my personal experience i have been out with quite a few women who said one thing and did or mean't the opposite. if you like this girl that much just ask her out on a date you never know it could be the best thing you could do.