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Cenafan · 01-29-2008, 04:14 AM

The yelling between my stepdad and mom has returned, now worse then ever. Everytime they end up yelling, something gets broken. And everytime they yell, my stepdad threatens to hit my mom. My brother's getting involved in it now, and that's not very healthy for someone his age. I am getting less and less sleep because of it too. My counsuler is trying her best to get my mom numbers and places to stay. So is my social worker. My mom has a few connections, but most are family, and they can't take us in. But she still goes to her sisters everyday. I don't know how much more of this I can take, so if I seem not myself lately, you understand why.

all help appreciated and thanks in advance.

Charmaine · 01-29-2008, 04:29 AM

Awwww Cena,I understand how you feel. I undergo almost the same thing at home and it does make you feel troubled a lot. I will pray for your mom, your brother and you as well for your well being. Take care and dont worry,we're all here for you.Love you.

GrammyBear · 01-29-2008, 04:47 AM

Bless your heart hon. Until your moma decides to get yal outa there, you and your brother have 3 choices which are yours to make:
1) make it worse by yelling, argueing, demanding...being in the fights or starting your own will simply not help anyone
2) do nothing but stand by and let the chips fall where they may...your moma has to decide for herself to get yal outa there and until she does, just get through each day being a witness who can relate what actually happens
3) try your best to be the one much needed calming sane influence for both your moma and your brother...I've learned in life you cannot change anyone, only they can, BUT through kindness and understanding it is sometimes possible to influence them into changing themselves by your actions and words.
My heart goes out to you, your moma and your brother...but even through all this turmoil I can see your stepdad must be in mental pain he cannot handle. He may have caused it himself and won't accept doing wrong. Although helping him might help everyone, if he has no one who can get through to him (like his friends and family)...your focus must be on you, moma and your brother.
If you fear for your life or anyone elses, consider all your options and talk them over with your social worker, a policeman, or counselor/advisor. Heck, in the midst of one of their breaking things battles, dial 9-1-1 and set the phone down or drop it. The dispatcher will most likely hear it, it may be recorded, the police will respond and take matters over even to arrest

if need be.
Also, remember, this too will pass...you can get through this. Years from now, this will only be a bad memory and learning experience. Hang in there and please stay safe!
/bear hugs

Cenafan · 01-29-2008, 04:54 AM

ty charm, i will keep you and your family in my prayers as well.

and

ty grammy for that info, and i will takecare, stay back and let the cards fall into place, no matter the outcome. and i'll try my best.

GrammyBear · 01-29-2008, 04:55 AM

Can't ask for more than your best dear.

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