MA_girl

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Wow. First thank you all for reading. Any and all suggestions are welcome.

Life is always crazy and unanticipated, but recently I am really confused.

I just got laid off from a terrible job and consider it an opportunity to find a better one, but it is still stressful.

My boyfriend is 1000 miles away working and I don't know if I should pick up my things and just move away as an opportunity to start over. What is killing me is the thought of taking my 7 year old daughter out of school and moving her far away from her friends and family. I'm torn and your advice would be great!

Thanks!

Robby

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Ok, you got a lot of opportunity's. Boyfriend, if that is what works go for it. As to the 7 year old, my wife and I moved our three sons from KY, to IND, then to Louisiana & finally back to Ohio. They were 5, & 2 moving to IND, 3rd one born in IND, then at 6, 3, and 1 we moved them to Louisiana. The move back to Ohio was at 13, 9 & 6. That was the roughest. Better to move now, than when she is older. Just my thoughts.

By the way I am the old man here, my kids are all raised, and moving never hurt them for very long.

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malenurse1

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I was raised in an Air Force family and moving never hurt us in the long run. I taught us to adjust and handle adversity. It was also an adventure and an opportunity to learn about someplace new. You have to ask yourself are you moving 1000 miles away because your life wil significantly improve as a result of it, or are you contemplating this because you are running away from your current situation. That is often refered to as a geographical cure to your problems. Eventually you find out that whereever you go ... there you are. Best of luck in whatever decision you make.

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lolohill

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You said the keyword. "Boyfriend". This doesn't sound like a fim and certain thing. First, he's a 1000 miles away and 2nd he's a "boyfriend". No commitment here in my opion it's just as uncertain to pack up and go then to take a stand here and try something new. I would stay. Hope this helps.

GrammyBear

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Offhand unless you and the bf were already planning to move in together before this, I'd say stay where you are and just start over. Wouldn't be good to move there then have it not work and hafta move back and be where you are now right?
good luck either way

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Wildbird

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Thing about the long-term commitment that your BF has offered to you before moving you and your child away from your current home. If there's no real commitment, stay where you are and let him know you'll miss him.

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Marijana

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you must ask your daughter what she think.

mantisrider4

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I have experience in this, except no kids. I was living in lower Michigan at the time, and lost my job, and decided to pack up everything and move.

Sometimes I regret doing it and sometimes I don't. The only way to truely find out whether or not it was worth it is to either experience it or not.

The choice is, whether there are more jobs there or not...

by the way, my move was initiated by a girlfriend I am no longer with, but I have a fiancee now up where I moved to.