i need some advice!!!! - Page 2

**welshy** · 03-06-2008, 06:53 AM

if this was one of my friends i would speak to them the day after the party and tell them about the phsical stress they placed upon me, and also the foul language they had directed at me. this drunken stuper that your friend got into clearly shows that she has no respect for herself and would be inccapable of having respect for her friends. as humans we all make mistakes but that is no excuse for your friend to treat you the way she did. i would tell any friend of mine who treated me this way that if they did not change their atitude towards me when they drunk that i would have to consder wheather our friendship would continue in the future.

03-06-2008, 07:43 AM

ok i kinda know where you come from, but is it with someone in here or outside here

Dr. Mooka · 03-06-2008, 08:00 PM

Hey hun. I know from personal experience, that hounding this girl to get her to quit is only going to piss her off and push her away. And I'm sure that you dont want to push her away, its obvious you care about her. Dont stop being friends, but distance yourself from her, so you dont fall into her bad influences. She'll stop when she's ready, and not a moment before that.

lew_con · 04-01-2008, 09:34 AM

nothing can begin without understanding. your heart may be in the right place but without understanding, your actions may not get the results you want. everyone does things for a reason and sometimes? people do not want to share those reasons with others....even friends. what i'm trying to say is, don't try to get her to change or share with you at first. instead, talk to your friend about your feelings concerning the things she does. tell her why you do, or do not drink or smoke. she may listen, and she may talk....and this may lead to a fight.

**aussiegirl** · 04-01-2008, 10:05 AM

Just to let you all know i havent talked to her since then so everything worked out

03-06-2008, 08:00 PM	#13 (permalink)

Dr. Mooka CUSA Nuisence Posts: 300 Points: 6,863,143,824 Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Texas Age: 19	Hey hun. I know from personal experience, that hounding this girl to get her to quit is only going to piss her off and push her away. And I'm sure that you dont want to push her away, its obvious you care about her. Dont stop being friends, but distance yourself from her, so you dont fall into her bad influences. She'll stop when she's ready, and not a moment before that. __________________

04-01-2008, 10:05 AM	#15 (permalink)

aussiegirl Premium Member Posts: 1,160 Blog Entries: 2 Points: 1,937,925,878 Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Australia	Just to let you all know i havent talked to her since then so everything worked out __________________

03-06-2008, 06:53 AM	#11 (permalink)

welshy Premium Member Posts: 140 Points: 5,184,167 Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: united kingdom-jersey / afghanistan until july Age: 39	if this was one of my friends i would speak to them the day after the party and tell them about the phsical stress they placed upon me, and also the foul language they had directed at me. this drunken stuper that your friend got into clearly shows that she has no respect for herself and would be inccapable of having respect for her friends. as humans we all make mistakes but that is no excuse for your friend to treat you the way she did. i would tell any friend of mine who treated me this way that if they did not change their atitude towards me when they drunk that i would have to consder wheather our friendship would continue in the future.

03-06-2008, 07:43 AM	#12 (permalink)

sweetunicorn Guest Posts: n/a Points: 0	ok i kinda know where you come from, but is it with someone in here or outside here

04-01-2008, 09:34 AM	#14 (permalink)

lew_con New Member Posts: 13 Points: 5,123 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: usa	nothing can begin without understanding. your heart may be in the right place but without understanding, your actions may not get the results you want. everyone does things for a reason and sometimes? people do not want to share those reasons with others....even friends. what i'm trying to say is, don't try to get her to change or share with you at first. instead, talk to your friend about your feelings concerning the things she does. tell her why you do, or do not drink or smoke. she may listen, and she may talk....and this may lead to a fight.