07-30-2006, 04:42 PM
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i need help with my life
i am 38 and never been married and still a vergin! let that sink in a minuet. i know that you dont beleave me bou it is true. you see as a child i had a over protevited mother and a daddy that didnt care. i know what you are thinking how can the marriage work betwen two people like that. well it did and it didnt. my parrents was actuiley sepperated and still liveing in the same house if you can figer that out. so much about my parrents now about me.
i was mulissed by a two couson at different times for a countless number of times when i was a child may be about 8 or9 years old. after this and seeing my parrients fight during there marrage and now my brother and his wife fighting. iwant to have a normal live go out on dates and get married someday but at the same time i dont want to live a life like i had to go through when i was growing up or put anybody else through a simmiler situation. i have talked to and helped a lot of children with there life every thing from other children makeing fun of them to running away and even sewside. untill one day a child came to me for help. when he started telling me what he was upagenst all i could is stand there and cry the child ask me what was wrong and i told him that i couldnt help him because it was the same thinge that i was going through at that time and still is  |
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07-30-2006, 05:56 PM
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Lonely, things will never be right for you until you get professional help and talk about it. Thats the only way to deal with things.
As for your cousin, did you tell anyone about this when it was happening or since it? Its not to late to do something about this person law wise. |
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07-31-2006, 08:11 AM
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I agree with FluffybunnY and Coldsteel. It is time to seek a professional about this. You can never move from being that little boy until you deal with those issues. I have learned that when you are molested as a child, that emotionally you stop growing. You are still that little kid inside and until you deal with the issues that came with that, then you can never move from where you are and find love.
And finding God might help you. It helped someone close to me. She found love in him that she never found in anything else. She found peace and forgiveness...thought it is hard right now...you also have to forgive those that hurt you like they did. ***PLEASE REMEMBER that we are not professionals. *** |
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07-31-2006, 10:02 AM
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u deserve to find love and an inner happiness but the only way that can be acheived is to let go of the past hard as that might sound its the only way, when you allow ur self to dwell it only reinforces the pain and the hurt ,replace they thoughts because u cant change the past its part of who u are now but not what u are take all the other qualites u have and work on finding u the real u the pasionate the funny the happy, shit happens in life dont destroy the rest of the time u have mentaly move on emontionly move on your not that little kid any more u are an adult you call the shots start to live please
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07-31-2006, 04:10 PM
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Well almost everybody that reply to your post told you to go seek professional help and that includes me. You have to face your fear.Talking usually helps.Not to mention crying. Don't be ashame to cry. It helps you to relax and lessen your emotional burden.All the best to you and hope you'll be able to leave your past way behind and start up fresh.Good Luck.
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08-03-2006, 09:43 PM
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thank you
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Originally Posted by Nilla
I agree with FluffybunnY and Coldsteel. It is time to seek a professional about this. You can never move from being that little boy until you deal with those issues. I have learned that when you are molested as a child, that emotionally you stop growing. You are still that little kid inside and until you deal with the issues that came with that, then you can never move from where you are and find love.
And finding God might help you. It helped someone close to me. She found love in him that she never found in anything else. She found peace and forgiveness...thought it is hard right now...you also have to forgive those that hurt you like they did. ***PLEASE REMEMBER that we are not professionals. *** That is some good advise. |
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