how to mend a broken heart

myrtle · 04-28-2008, 03:40 PM

Can anyone help me to get over a broken heart what can I do thanks.

Angel · 04-28-2008, 04:07 PM

I guess there is no tried and tested thing to get over a broken heart, but you should give urself a lot of time, and allow urself to grieve for what u have lost, mourn it and appreciate what it was, cos until u do, it will be hard to move on. Life is precious, its an amazing gift we have been given and i hope u are able to mend ur heart and carry on living the amazing life we all have

GrammyBear · 04-28-2008, 05:51 PM

Best thing in my opinion is to try your very best not to dwell on "what might have been"s because they serve no purpose save to keep you depressed and feeling hopeless. It can be like a poison.
Try to accept that whatever didn't work/went wrong/ended, etc could have been fate/kharma letting you know you were done. You've lived through and learned from it. Forgive yourself and them for whatever bad there was and remember the good times. It's just possible you've gained all you could from that relationship so now it's time to move down a different path.
Try distracting yourself doing things that occupy your mind. Reading, crosswords, whatever you've enjoyed in the past. Visit with friends and family or make some new friends, but remember to talk about whatever you can have a sense of humor about. Life is what you're living daily so may as well not waste it with any painful past if you can avoid it. Even if you don't exactly feel like seeking joy at the moment, you could accidentally trip over some distracting yourself from pain.
Good luck, I hope you heal quickly, and remember hope is there even if you've misplaced it.
Bear Hugs

myrtle · 04-29-2008, 09:26 AM

Thank you for your kind words of comfort I will take on board what you said, many thanks.

sinisterkane · 05-03-2008, 09:03 PM

u slowly sew it back together.................

unfortunately, when them scars heal, the time in between soothes the pain.When the scars totally heal, then pain is less severe....KANE

myrtle · 05-04-2008, 01:22 PM

Hi the trouble is with me is what if you are still in love with that person when they went and they loved you but were not in love with you. Thanks

martina · 05-05-2008, 12:52 PM

i think that anyone can't hel you about broken heart!
I am realy sorry

Spankalicious · 05-05-2008, 01:47 PM

i have loved many people who have not returned that love ........but someone up high returns it you should find comfort and solace from him he is the healer of all hearts and with time yours will heal but life wouldnt be the same if we didnt love even if they dont love us back at least you gave your all and thats all you can do .so have faith and joy that you were able to love someone regardless if they loved you back thats are job here after all is to grow and learn and to love and give love without question or expectations that it will come back to you ........thats my thought anyway and it has gotten me thru so many broken hearts...and i have never stopped loving i will continue to give my love no matter how many people break it cause its all i have is my love............keep loving and you will always be loved in return by the only heart that truly matters your own......and you are a piece of god good luck and god bless you and everyone else

mariasue · 05-05-2008, 02:05 PM

It's hard to forget, one that you love, i know!! If u believe in god, and yourself, it makes it a little easier! If you are lucky enough to find another, then it will help heal your heart also! God bless you hun, and take care!

04-28-2008, 03:40 PM	#1 (permalink)

myrtle New Member Posts: 3 Points: 5,160 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: kent united kingdom	how to mend a broken heart Can anyone help me to get over a broken heart what can I do thanks.

04-28-2008, 04:07 PM	#2 (permalink)

Angel Living and Loving Posts: 7,691 Blog Entries: 5 Points: 14,726,467,456,813 Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: uk Age: 28	I guess there is no tried and tested thing to get over a broken heart, but you should give urself a lot of time, and allow urself to grieve for what u have lost, mourn it and appreciate what it was, cos until u do, it will be hard to move on. Life is precious, its an amazing gift we have been given and i hope u are able to mend ur heart and carry on living the amazing life we all have __________________ Angel@chatsusa.com

04-28-2008, 05:51 PM	#3 (permalink)

GrammyBear Joy Seeker! Posts: 10,104 Blog Entries: 1 Points: 1,837,474,777,057 Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: ...just over the edge Age: 54	Best thing in my opinion is to try your very best not to dwell on "what might have been"s because they serve no purpose save to keep you depressed and feeling hopeless. It can be like a poison. Try to accept that whatever didn't work/went wrong/ended, etc could have been fate/kharma letting you know you were done. You've lived through and learned from it. Forgive yourself and them for whatever bad there was and remember the good times. It's just possible you've gained all you could from that relationship so now it's time to move down a different path. Try distracting yourself doing things that occupy your mind. Reading, crosswords, whatever you've enjoyed in the past. Visit with friends and family or make some new friends, but remember to talk about whatever you can have a sense of humor about. Life is what you're living daily so may as well not waste it with any painful past if you can avoid it. Even if you don't exactly feel like seeking joy at the moment, you could accidentally trip over some distracting yourself from pain. Good luck, I hope you heal quickly, and remember hope is there even if you've misplaced it. Bear Hugs __________________ Happiness is a Choice - Not an Accident! Be Yourself: Those who mind don't matter. Those who matter, won't mind. Leave good memories in the hearts of others. Proud Member: CUSA's Bookworms, Moviegoers, and Metalheads Best Wishes and Bear Hugs, GrammyBear CUSA Moderator

05-03-2008, 09:03 PM	#5 (permalink)

sinisterkane Aspiring Evangelist Posts: 567 Points: 200,333,056 Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: buffalo,ny	u slowly sew it back together................. unfortunately, when them scars heal, the time in between soothes the pain.When the scars totally heal, then pain is less severe....KANE __________________ lifes to short...... to just drag along.....lets party Last edited by sinisterkane; 05-03-2008 at 09:12 PM.

05-05-2008, 02:05 PM	#9 (permalink)

mariasue Member Posts: 157 Points: 6,009,898 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Mtn. home ,Arkansas Age: 43	It's hard to forget, one that you love, i know!! If u believe in god, and yourself, it makes it a little easier! If you are lucky enough to find another, then it will help heal your heart also! God bless you hun, and take care! __________________ My life is an open book, and so is my heart! *Those that dwell in love, are always welcome!*

04-29-2008, 09:26 AM	#4 (permalink)

myrtle New Member Posts: 3 Points: 5,160 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: kent united kingdom	Thank you for your kind words of comfort I will take on board what you said, many thanks.

05-04-2008, 01:22 PM	#6 (permalink)

myrtle New Member Posts: 3 Points: 5,160 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: kent united kingdom	Hi the trouble is with me is what if you are still in love with that person when they went and they loved you but were not in love with you. Thanks

05-05-2008, 12:52 PM	#7 (permalink)

martina New Member Posts: 4 Blog Entries: 1 Points: 5,172 Join Date: May 2008 Location: Croatia - Zagreb	i think that anyone can't hel you about broken heart! I am realy sorry

05-05-2008, 01:47 PM	#8 (permalink)

Spankalicious ~evilspanky~ Posts: 164 Blog Entries: 1 Points: 4,998,193 Join Date: May 2007 Location: on a realm most others do not follow	i have loved many people who have not returned that love ........but someone up high returns it you should find comfort and solace from him he is the healer of all hearts and with time yours will heal but life wouldnt be the same if we didnt love even if they dont love us back at least you gave your all and thats all you can do .so have faith and joy that you were able to love someone regardless if they loved you back thats are job here after all is to grow and learn and to love and give love without question or expectations that it will come back to you ........thats my thought anyway and it has gotten me thru so many broken hearts...and i have never stopped loving i will continue to give my love no matter how many people break it cause its all i have is my love............keep loving and you will always be loved in return by the only heart that truly matters your own......and you are a piece of god good luck and god bless you and everyone else